Who is right?

My boyfriend is now abroad in a big real estate exhibition. He just sent me an sms saying that he saw in one of the galleries a model with black hair, blue eyes, 1,80 cm tall, wearing bikini. I got very pissed and sent him back 10 sms expressing my sorrow and anger that he pays attention to such "details". Now he is upset with me and he claims that I am pathologically jealous and irrational. We actually had a terrible fight and we don`t talk to each other anymore. Who is right?

Who is right?

He might be teasing you. But he's wrong to blame you when he's the one looking at other girls. He should know better that he'd make you mad.

If I were you at the instant when he's taking down all the details about the model. I would say sth similar to see how he handles it. LIke "when I was shopping I saw this hot %26amp; handsome guy in a tux, he picked up my bags when I accidentally dropped them...So cute when he smiles" Of course, that might not have actually happened. But so you know this will tell him that "dont mess with me".

Like you, I would NOT like it if my long-time bf does that to me, making me think that I'm less than that model. I would stand on your side, but I guess you were a bit "desperate" when you heard him talking about this model.

He should say sorry that he made you mad, for not understanding you better. At least now you know what kind of a guy he is. Just remember: if he still doesn't talk to you, any guy would be lucky to have you.

Who is right?

I'd say more so him, but I feel you're both in the wrong. Firstly, why did he even have to express what he saw to you, is he overly honest or trying to make you feel jealous? But then again, you can't expect him not to notice members of the opposite sex. Just because we are in a relationship does not mean we loose privilege to our eyes, we notice attractive people instantly, it's like a second nature. But what counts is what you do, or better yet...what you don't do. You can look, but don't touch. I'm sure you even walk down the street and see attractive looking men, you may think in the back of your head "damn", but then you keep walking.

I don't think this is something to end a relationship about unless he makes a habit of flirting with women or constantly staring at women and disrespecting you. He made a comment he probably didn't really think through and he was being insensitive because he could have kept that in his mind. And I think you are being a little insecure for him taking notice of others, unless like I said, he does it all the time. Be the bigger person, call him back and tell him that you thought his comment was insensitive but you were in the wrong too. Tell him to keep all the nice looking girls he sees in his mind, you don't want to hear how hot some girl looks, you want to hear how hot you look and that would make you feel good.

Good luck.

Who is right?

Well, it's hard to say, only getting your side of the story (from your side, it sounds like you are right, but he may have a completely different perspective...I know, not what you want to hear, but it's true)

However, it is very strange that he would inform you he saw a gorgeous model in a bikini. It's not like you want to know this.

Nonetheless, all he said is that he saw one. Anyone could see a gorgeous model in a bikini, and you may be overreacting sending him 10 angry messages.

I would have just been like "Oh, really? That's cool! I'm having lunch with Antonio Banderas! And boy, is he even hotter in person!"

Just let him know that he can look at models (he's a guy...he's going to do it anyway), but the second he doesn't keep his hands to himself, he's outta here.

Good luck!